8 Ways to Tell Your Kids You’re Getting Divorced
It’s a very tough, emotionally overwhelming, topic to discuss with your children, but it must be done. Here’s some professional advice on ways to break the divorce news to your kids.
Know the plan
“The most common mistake parents getting divorced make with their kids is to tell them about the divorce too soon,” says Dr. Jenn Mann, PhD, psychotherapist, and author of The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids. “Children should not be involved with the process, the decision-making, or the conflict.” Parents should only let their children know that they’re getting divorced until after they have already filed, found a new home for the parent who is moving out, have furnished it and have a concrete move-in date. “Not knowing what happens next or when is too anxiety-provoking for children. They need to be presented with a completed and specific plan.” Adds Dr. Mann: “It is best if the parents can be a unified front and tell the kids together without blaming one another. Also, if you have more than one child, it’s best to tell all the children together and then discuss age specific issues with children one-on-one. It’s not good for one child to have to hold a secret from”…Read the entire article by Rachel Sokol on Reader’s Digest.