When you decide you’re getting divorced, you’re deciding to relieve yourself from a stressful situation. It might be stress caused by entrenched personal differences, or marital infidelity, other acts of dishonesty, or even abuse. Whatever the reason, you know you need the stress to end – you know you need to get yourself out of that situation. It’s unfortunate, then, that the choice to end a stressful situation – a failing marriage – means for most people accepting even more stress by getting divorced. You’ll face a legal process that could drag on for years. Judges and attorneys will discuss your most personal matters, sometimes even in the harshly formal atmosphere of a courtroom. You’ll have to pay significant expenses out of pocket. You may be uprooted from your home, and you’ll feel jerked out of your old rhythms like a needle from a record groove. Moreover, you might have children to care for, keeping them safe and stable while you plan for their uncertain future.
A certain amount of stress and anxiety will be, in almost every case of getting divorce, unavoidable, but having an experienced an attentive divorce attorney on your side can help relieve that, and move you quickly toward an equitable resolution. Your attorney will be able to answer many of your questions, and even put some of them to rest, in your first consultation.
Before that, though, you might want to familiarize yourself with the ins and outs of the divorce process, starting with the laws in your state. Different states recognize different kinds of divorce, and have different laws regarding where, when, and how you can file. Even things like alimony can vary greatly state to state. Talk to an experienced attorney about the laws in New Jersey before you move ahead with getting divorced.